When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart

Author: Joel Young
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 1493003968
Size: 62.37 MB
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When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart from the Author: Joel Young. Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?" These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to "saving" their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.

When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart

Author: Joel L. Young
Publisher: Lyons Press
ISBN: 9780762792979
Size: 47.38 MB
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When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart from the Author: Joel L. Young. Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?" These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to "saving" their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.

When Your Child Breaks Your Heart

Author: Barbara Johnson
Publisher: Revell
ISBN: 0800787757
Size: 73.81 MB
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When Your Child Breaks Your Heart from the Author: Barbara Johnson. Beloved author Barbara Johnson offers hope to families facing difficulty coming to terms with a child's decisions in life, sharing how God brought her through the deep waters--and how he will do the same for them.

When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781439106822
Size: 25.59 MB
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When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us from the Author: Jane Adams. How do today's parents cope when the dreams we had for our children clash with reality? What can we do for our twenty- and even thirty-somethings who can't seem to grow up? How can we help our depressed, dependent, or addicted adult children, the ones who can't get their lives started, who are just marking time or even doing it? What's the right strategy when our smart, capable "adultolescents" won't leave home or come boomeranging back? Who can we turn to when the kids aren't all right and we, their parents, are frightened, frustrated, resentful, embarrassed, and especially, disappointed? In this groundbreaking book, a social psychologist who's been chronicling the lives of American families for over two decades confronts our deepest concerns, including our silence and self-imposed sense of isolation, when our grown kids have failed to thrive. She listens to a generation that "did everything right" and expected its children to grow into happy, healthy, successful adults. But they haven't, at least, not yet -- and meanwhile, we're letting their problems threaten our health, marriages, security, freedom, careers or retirement, and other family relationships. With warmth, empathy, and perspective, Dr. Adams offers a positive, life-affirming message to parents who are still trying to "fix" their adult children -- Stop! She shows us how to separate from their problems without separating from them, and how to be a positive force in their lives while getting on with our own. As we navigate this critical passage in our second adulthood and their first, the bestselling author of I'm Still Your Mother reminds us that the pleasures and possibilities of postparenthood should not depend on how our kids turn out, but on how we do!

Done With The Crying

Author: Sheri McGregor
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780997352207
Size: 44.69 MB
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Done With The Crying from the Author: Sheri McGregor. If such a precious relationship can fall apart, then what is safe? Mothers of estranged adult children wonder: What did I do wrong? Who can I trust? Will my other children leave too? Sheri McGregor, M.A., is a loving mother to whom the unthinkable happened. She uses tools, understanding, and the insight from more than 9,000 parents to help.

30 Lessons For Living

Author: Karl Pillemer, Ph.D.
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101545852
Size: 71.38 MB
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30 Lessons For Living from the Author: Karl Pillemer, Ph.D.. “Heartfelt and ever-endearing—equal parts information and inspiration. This is a book to keep by your bedside and return to often.”—Amy Dickinson, nationally syndicated advice columnist "Ask Amy" More than one thousand extraordinary Americans share their stories and the wisdom they have gained on living, loving, and finding happiness. After a chance encounter with an extraordinary ninety-year-old woman, renowned gerontologist Karl Pillemer began to wonder what older people know about life that the rest of us don't. His quest led him to interview more than one thousand Americans over the age of sixty-five to seek their counsel on all the big issues: children, marriage, money, career, aging. Their moving stories and uncompromisingly honest answers often surprised him. And he found that he consistently heard advice that pointed to these thirty lessons for living. Here he weaves their personal recollections of difficulties overcome and lives well lived into a timeless book filled with the hard-won advice these older Americans wish someone had given them when they were young. Like This I Believe, StoryCorps's Listening Is an Act of Love, and Tuesdays with Morrie, 30 Lessons for Living is a book to keep and to give. Offering clear advice toward a more fulfilling life, it is as useful as it is inspiring.

Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children

Author: Allison Bottke
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 0736938583
Size: 36.41 MB
Format: PDF
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Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children from the Author: Allison Bottke. This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage--and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough-love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, "Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children" will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.--a six-step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives. S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to God Foreword by Carol Kent ("When I Lay My Isaac Down")

When Someone You Love Has A Mental Illness

Author: Rebecca Woolis
Publisher: Tarcher
ISBN: 9780874776959
Size: 40.35 MB
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When Someone You Love Has A Mental Illness from the Author: Rebecca Woolis. Discusses home care versus a treatment facility, financial assistance, selecting a physician, handling stress, balancing family needs, and other issues.

Your Child S Divorce

Author: Marsha Temlock
Publisher: Impact Publishers
ISBN: 9781886230668
Size: 69.57 MB
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Your Child S Divorce from the Author: Marsha Temlock. "Mom, Dad...I'm getting a divorce..." When an adult child's marriage ends, it's not just the divorcing couple and their children who are hurt. Your Child's Divorce puts an arm around the shoulder of parents of divorcing adults and supports them through the difficult days of the divorce process and its aftermath. This friendly volume's five-stage model of the divorce process for parents (Accepting the News... Rescuing Your Child... Responding to Changes... Stabilizing the Family... Refocusing and Rebuilding) will help readers to stay grounded through the emotional upheavals they'll share with their children and grandchildren. Book jacket.

Healing A Parent S Grieving Heart

Author: Alan D. Wolfelt
Publisher: Companion Press
ISBN: 1879651300
Size: 19.10 MB
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Healing A Parent S Grieving Heart from the Author: Alan D. Wolfelt. Presenting simple yet highly effective methods for coping and healing, this book provides answers and relief to parents trying to deal with the loss of a child. It offers 100 practical, action-oriented tips for embracing grief, such as writing a letter to the child who has died; spending time with others who will listen to stories of grief; creating a memory book, box, or Web site; and remembering others who may still be struggling with the death. The guide also addresses common problems for grieving parents, including dealing with marital stress, helping surviving siblings, dealing with hurtful advice, and exploring feelings of guilt. This compassionate resource will aid parents who have been through the death of a child—whether the passing happened recently or many years ago, whether the child was young or an adult.