When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781439106822
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When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us from the Author: Jane Adams. How do today's parents cope when the dreams we had for our children clash with reality? What can we do for our twenty- and even thirty-somethings who can't seem to grow up? How can we help our depressed, dependent, or addicted adult children, the ones who can't get their lives started, who are just marking time or even doing it? What's the right strategy when our smart, capable "adultolescents" won't leave home or come boomeranging back? Who can we turn to when the kids aren't all right and we, their parents, are frightened, frustrated, resentful, embarrassed, and especially, disappointed? In this groundbreaking book, a social psychologist who's been chronicling the lives of American families for over two decades confronts our deepest concerns, including our silence and self-imposed sense of isolation, when our grown kids have failed to thrive. She listens to a generation that "did everything right" and expected its children to grow into happy, healthy, successful adults. But they haven't, at least, not yet -- and meanwhile, we're letting their problems threaten our health, marriages, security, freedom, careers or retirement, and other family relationships. With warmth, empathy, and perspective, Dr. Adams offers a positive, life-affirming message to parents who are still trying to "fix" their adult children -- Stop! She shows us how to separate from their problems without separating from them, and how to be a positive force in their lives while getting on with our own. As we navigate this critical passage in our second adulthood and their first, the bestselling author of I'm Still Your Mother reminds us that the pleasures and possibilities of postparenthood should not depend on how our kids turn out, but on how we do!

When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9780743232814
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When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us from the Author: Jane Adams. A guide for parents of dysfunctional or inappropriately dependent grown children offers supportive advice on how to stop taking on the responsibility of caring for and fixing a grown child's problems while addressing feelings of guilt and frustration. Reprint. 20,000 first printing.

When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9780743232807
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When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us from the Author: Jane Adams. Offers advice on how to stop taking on the responsibility of caring for and fixing a grown child's problems while addressing feelings of guilt and frustration.

How To Really Love Your Adult Child

Author: Gary Chapman
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 0802477909
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How To Really Love Your Adult Child from the Author: Gary Chapman. More than 10 years after Parenting Your Adult Child was published, much has changed - including young adults themselves, as well as their parents. Economic upheavals, challenges to traditional values and beliefs, the phenomenon of over-involved "helicopter parenting" - all make relating to grown children more difficult than ever. Yet at the same time, being a parent of an adult child can bring great rewards. This revised and updated version of Dr. Gary Chapman's and Dr. Ross Campbell's message will help today's parents explore how to really love their adult child in today's changing world. The book includes brief sidebars from parents of adult children and adult children themselves with their own stories. An online study guide will also be available.

How To Raise Your Adult Children

Author: Gail Parent
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101457686
Size: 42.26 MB
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How To Raise Your Adult Children from the Author: Gail Parent. A funny and practical guide to parenting "grown" children. Today's "kids" are taking longer to move out, tend to marry later, and are baffling their parents with issues far beyond the expertise of Spock or Ferber. In this irreverent yet essential guide, a bestselling writer and a psychotherapist- both of whom have adult children-team up to provide witty and insightful advice for the millions who need help handling a range of perilous and very adult situations, including ? how to get a couch potato out of the house ? when to not pay for a child's wedding ? what to say about your kids' own parenting methods ? and much, much more

When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart

Author: Joel L. Young
Publisher: Lyons Press
ISBN: 9780762792979
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When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart from the Author: Joel L. Young. Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?" These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to "saving" their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.

I M Still Your Mother

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780595183586
Size: 32.30 MB
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I M Still Your Mother from the Author: Jane Adams. Is there life with your kids once you’ve raised them? In this groundbreaking book, a best-selling author and psychologist (and the mother of grown children, too) shows you how to keep your family together for a lifetime. Dr. Spock didn’t tell you about Postparenthood, but Jane Adams does—in this wise, warm, witty, commonsense guide to creating a close, loving relationship with your grown children. You raised your kids to be independent, strong, and think for themselves. So once they’re grown, why is it so hard to let them do it? Jane Adams interviewed over a hundred mothers and fathers of young adults to learn how they’ve created closer, more authentic relationships with their kids than they had with their own parents. She offers practical wisdom about how to keep families together even when distance tugs at the ties that bind. Sensible tips on holding them close to your hearts while getting them out of your house. Good advice about helping them start their careers. And first-hand strategies on getting along with their mates, giving or lending them money, offering or asking advice, being a great grandparent, coming to terms with their lifestyles, and preparing both generations for the future.

Parents To The End

Author: Linda M. Herman
Publisher: N T I Upstream
ISBN: 9780983639671
Size: 79.12 MB
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Parents To The End from the Author: Linda M. Herman. Armed with the twin swords of guilt and anxiety, many baby boomers are marching toward retirement to a tune unlike any their own parents heard a generation ago. Just when they expected peace of mind and an empty nest, far too many boomers are discovering a different reality: • Adult children living at home without contributing to the household • Repeated requests for money that’s often not repaid • Relationship strains that have left them bewildered To help parents save themselves from distress and spur their adult children to get on-track, Herman offers practical strategies and poignant insights. Throughout "Parents to the End," she recognizes the delicate balance parents must strike between giving appropriate help to their adult children and just enabling them, while also taking into account individual differences and needs.

Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children

Author: Allison Bottke
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 0736938583
Size: 34.23 MB
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Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children from the Author: Allison Bottke. This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage--and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough-love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, "Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children" will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.--a six-step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives. S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to God Foreword by Carol Kent ("When I Lay My Isaac Down")

Walking On Eggshells

Author: Jane Isay
Publisher: Anchor
ISBN: 0767929381
Size: 43.63 MB
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Walking On Eggshells from the Author: Jane Isay. We raise our children to be independent and lead fulfilling lives, but when they finally do, staying close becomes more complicated than ever. And for every bewildered mother who wonders why her children don’t call, there is a frustrated son or daughter who just wants to be treated like a grownup. Now, renowned editor Jane Isay delivers the perfect gift to both parents and their adult children—real-life wisdom and advice on how to stay together without falling apart. Using extensive interviews with people from ages twenty-five to seventy, Isay shows that we’re far from alone in our struggles to make this new, adult relationship work. She offers up groundbreaking insights and deeply moving stories that will inspire those in even the toughest situations. Isay’s warmth and wit shine through on every page as she charts an invaluable course through the confusing, and often painful, interactions parents and children can face. Walking on Eggshells is the much-needed road map that will keep you connected to the people you love most.