When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781439106822
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When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us from the Author: Jane Adams. How do today's parents cope when the dreams we had for our children clash with reality? What can we do for our twenty- and even thirty-somethings who can't seem to grow up? How can we help our depressed, dependent, or addicted adult children, the ones who can't get their lives started, who are just marking time or even doing it? What's the right strategy when our smart, capable "adultolescents" won't leave home or come boomeranging back? Who can we turn to when the kids aren't all right and we, their parents, are frightened, frustrated, resentful, embarrassed, and especially, disappointed? In this groundbreaking book, a social psychologist who's been chronicling the lives of American families for over two decades confronts our deepest concerns, including our silence and self-imposed sense of isolation, when our grown kids have failed to thrive. She listens to a generation that "did everything right" and expected its children to grow into happy, healthy, successful adults. But they haven't, at least, not yet -- and meanwhile, we're letting their problems threaten our health, marriages, security, freedom, careers or retirement, and other family relationships. With warmth, empathy, and perspective, Dr. Adams offers a positive, life-affirming message to parents who are still trying to "fix" their adult children -- Stop! She shows us how to separate from their problems without separating from them, and how to be a positive force in their lives while getting on with our own. As we navigate this critical passage in our second adulthood and their first, the bestselling author of I'm Still Your Mother reminds us that the pleasures and possibilities of postparenthood should not depend on how our kids turn out, but on how we do!

When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9780743232814
Size: 71.14 MB
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When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us from the Author: Jane Adams. A guide for parents of dysfunctional or inappropriately dependent grown children offers supportive advice on how to stop taking on the responsibility of caring for and fixing a grown child's problems while addressing feelings of guilt and frustration. Reprint. 20,000 first printing.

When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9780743232807
Size: 28.52 MB
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When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us from the Author: Jane Adams. Offers advice on how to stop taking on the responsibility of caring for and fixing a grown child's problems while addressing feelings of guilt and frustration.

Getting To 30

Author: Jeffrey Jensen Arnett
Publisher: Workman Publishing
ISBN: 0761179666
Size: 12.84 MB
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Getting To 30 from the Author: Jeffrey Jensen Arnett. Helps parents to understand what their kids in their twenties are experiencing, and offers support to parents so they can guide their children through various challenges they may be faced with.

I M Still Your Mother

Author: Jane Adams
Publisher: Delta
ISBN: 9780385306959
Size: 53.82 MB
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I M Still Your Mother from the Author: Jane Adams. A warmly written, supportive guide for older parents who want to maintain close relationships with their grown-up children offers them practical ideas for strengthening family bonds and for guiding their children toward personal fulfillment. Reprint.

When Parents Hurt

Author: Joshua Coleman
Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks
ISBN: 9780061148439
Size: 50.63 MB
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When Parents Hurt from the Author: Joshua Coleman. In When Parents Hurt, psychologist and parent Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., offers insight, empathy, and perspective to those who have lost the opportunity to be the parent they desperately wanted to be and who are mourning the loss of a harmonious relationship with their child. Through case examples and healing exercises, Dr. Coleman helps parents: Reduce anger, guilt, and shame Learn how temperament, the teen years, their own or a partner's mistakes, and divorce can strain the parent-child bond Come to terms with their own and their child's imperfections Develop strategies for rebuilding the relationship or move toward acceptance of what can't be changed By helping parents recognize what they can do and let go of what they cannot, Dr. Coleman helps families develop more positive ways of healing themselves and relating to each other.

Don T Let Your Kids Kill You

Author: Charles Rubin
Publisher: Element Books Limited
ISBN: 9781852308636
Size: 35.97 MB
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Don T Let Your Kids Kill You from the Author: Charles Rubin. Offers advice for parents with children who have turned to substance-abuse, includes tending to your needs first, setting boundaries, and attending support groups

You Re Wearing That

Author: Deborah Tannen
Publisher: Random House
ISBN: 1588365212
Size: 33.47 MB
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You Re Wearing That from the Author: Deborah Tannen. Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don’t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women’s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language–but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other’s power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three–hair, clothes, and weight–while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen’s humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You’re Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives. “Tannen analyzes and decodes scores of conversations between moms and daughters. These exchanges are so real they can make you squirm as you relive the last fraught conversation you had with your own mother or daughter. But Tannen doesn't just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations (or the way that we feel about the conversations) before they degenerate into what Tannen calls a mutually aggravating spiral, a "self-perpetuating cycle of escalating responses that become provocations." – The San Francisco Chronicle From the Hardcover edition.

Personal Village

Author: Marvin Thomas
Publisher: Danforth Book Distribution
ISBN: 9781887542081
Size: 17.79 MB
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Personal Village from the Author: Marvin Thomas. Your most valuable asset is the people in your life. Does this sound familiar? You are so busy you don't have time for your friends. You get sick and no one shows up to help or express concern. You want someone in your life who really cares and knows who you are. You experience quick encounters as exciting, but at the end of the day you are still lonely. From your family to members of your congregation, to the people who deliver your mail or serve your coffee each morning, every person you know, every person you see is a part of your Personal Village. With this insightful, funny and approachable book as your guide, you can master the skills of getting closer with the people around you, of having people in your life "by choice, not by chance." "Too much is written about how to make money too little is written about how to strengthen our personal communities," according to respected relationship therapist, Marv Thomas. To combat the many dehumanizing effects of 21st century life, he has created the everyman's guide to enriching our lives by establishing deeper connections with the people around us. In this groundbreaking book, PERSONAL VILLAGE, HOW TO HAVE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE BY CHOICEE, NOT CHANCE, Thomas explains how to add real value to your life by forming deeper, more meaningful relationships with the people in your life that matter most.