Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children

Author: Allison Bottke
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 0736938583
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Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children from the Author: Allison Bottke. This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage--and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough-love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, "Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children" will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.--a six-step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives. S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to God Foreword by Carol Kent ("When I Lay My Isaac Down")

Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children Companion Study Guide

Author: Allison Bottke
Publisher: Allison Bottke LLC
ISBN: 9780692273951
Size: 64.59 MB
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Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children Companion Study Guide from the Author: Allison Bottke. DO YOU HAVE AN ADULT CHILD WHO IS ALWAYS IN CRISIS? Parents and grandparents around the country are struggling emotionally, spiritually and financially-living in chaos from one crisis to another concerning the poor choices being made by their adult children. They want desperately to help their adult children, and yet their repeated attempts to come to the rescue have not brought the expected results. Well-meaning parental enabling has fostered a vicious cycle of insanity that has reached epidemic proportion with catastrophic consequences. With almost 200,000 books sold in the popular Setting Boundaries(r) series, countless parents around the world have found hope, healing and SANITY since the release of Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents by Allison Bottke. This critically acclaimed book is a recommended resource by Focus on the Family, and it has hit #1 on various Amazon.com lists several times. With deep compassion and empathy for parents in pain, Allison has developed a SANITY Support Group workbook for use with the book to help parents set healthy boundaries. Hundreds of participants worldwide have already successfully completed the 6-Steps to SANITY and 12-Weeks to Freedom support group program. Following the six-step SANITY acronym, group members explore the difference between helping and enabling, why we enable and why we must stop, the power of love and forgiveness, what to do when drug, alcohol or other addictions are a component, how to develop an effective plan of action, and other vital issues surrounding this timely topic. This empowering 12-week program is specifically for those struggling with adult children over the age of 18, who are ready to embark on a life-changing journey to find hope, healing and freedom. The workbook is designed for small groups of any size and also includes step-by-step guidance for Group Leaders. All material in the acclaimed Setting Boundaries(r) series is faith-based. Allison is clear that her perspective on the issue is that of a Christian parent in pain. However, she invites readers of all faiths to learn how to set the necessary boundaries needed to survive as a parent of an adult child whose life is always in some type of drama, chaos or crisis. * Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children will launch a brand new beginning in your life. You may feel you are in a desert place right now as you struggle with a parenting crisis, but be alert! There's a stream in the wasteland-and you can begin making hope-filled choices that will forever change your future for the better. Carol Kent, Speaker and Author * I just got your book today on Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children and finished it in about four hours. My son is in jail right now. I realized I am an enabler and codependent from other books, but I found your book very enlightening as to what to do about it other than just being told to stop. I need a SANITY Support Group, I need help to implement the SANITY process. ML * I began a mother's group using Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, and it was wonderful! We all loved it! We all still have kids (18 & over), and we really needed the encouragement and help. SR * Your book was a hard read for an enabler-after being a really good parent of small children, less of a good parent of teenagers and not very good at all of adult children. I have my own issues that I have been working on for years. I am the director of a Christian Counseling Center, and I'm motivated to be a better parent of adult children and to help those who are seeking help as well. WC * Thank you so much for writing the book, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children. I bought it from a bookstore here in Mississauga, Ontario, Canada and I read it out loud word-for-word with my husband! We are Christian parents and could not put the book down because it related so much to what we are going through. Thanks & God bless yo

How To Really Love Your Adult Child

Author: Gary Chapman
Publisher: Moody Publishers
ISBN: 0802477909
Size: 41.55 MB
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How To Really Love Your Adult Child from the Author: Gary Chapman. More than 10 years after Parenting Your Adult Child was published, much has changed - including young adults themselves, as well as their parents. Economic upheavals, challenges to traditional values and beliefs, the phenomenon of over-involved "helicopter parenting" - all make relating to grown children more difficult than ever. Yet at the same time, being a parent of an adult child can bring great rewards. This revised and updated version of Dr. Gary Chapman's and Dr. Ross Campbell's message will help today's parents explore how to really love their adult child in today's changing world. The book includes brief sidebars from parents of adult children and adult children themselves with their own stories. An online study guide will also be available.

Liking The Child You Love

Author: Jeffrey Bernstein
Publisher: Da Capo Press
ISBN: 0786748087
Size: 74.22 MB
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Liking The Child You Love from the Author: Jeffrey Bernstein. “I shouldn’t have to tell him that again!” “She is just so spoiled.” “They don’t appreciate anything I do for them.” Do you feel like you’re at the end of your rope? Are you exhausted by your kids arguing over every little thing? Finally there’s a name for your feelings: “Parent Frustration Syndrome” (PFS). No kid is perfect, but parents often don’t realize just how much their own thoughts, rather than their children’s behavior, contribute to being emotionally overwhelmed and discouraged. In Liking the Child You Love, Renowned psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein offers proven strategies for taming the 9 most common toxic thought patterns that stop us from parenting effectively: • The “Always or Never” Trap • Label Gluing • Seething Sarcasm • Smoldering Suspicions • Detrimental Denial • Emotional Overheating • Blame Blasting • “Should” Slamming • Dooming Conclusions As you identify and put a stop to PFS’s negative thought patterns, you’ll be amazed at how your kids’ defiant behavior quickly improves, without having to raise your voice or dole out harsh punishments. Soon you will have a closer, calmer, and more loving relationship with your kids—just by changing your own mindset.

One Minute Prayers For Your Adult Children

Author: Allison Bottke
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 0736962433
Size: 12.95 MB
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One Minute Prayers For Your Adult Children from the Author: Allison Bottke. If you're a mom or dad who has watched your adult child's life spiral out of control, you're not alone. You join a reluctant club comprised of millions of parents concerned about the bad choices their son or daughter has made. Author Allison Bottke is part of that club too. She has watched in agony as her son made choices that eventually resulted in his arrest. Out of her experience came her bestselling book Setting Boundaries(TM) with Your Adult Children, the first in a highly successful series of Setting Boundaries(TM) books. Now Allison offers you--and all parents in pain--a book of prayers written specifically to help you intercede with God on behalf of your prodigal. If you know the pain of parenting an adult child who has lost his or her way, you will also know that ultimately your best hope is in God's intervention. Allison's prayers give voice to the cries of your own heart and your desire to seek and trust God with your adult child's present and future.

Setting Boundaries With Your Aging Parents

Author: Allison Bottke
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 0736938591
Size: 71.39 MB
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Setting Boundaries With Your Aging Parents from the Author: Allison Bottke. This important book from the author of Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children (more than 40,000 sold) will help adult children who long for a better relationship with their parents but feel trapped in a never-ending cycle of chaos, crisis, or drama. With keen insight and a passion to empower adult children, Allison charts a trustworthy roadmap through the often unfamiliar territory of setting boundaries with parents while maintaining personal balance and avoiding burnout. Through the use of professional advice, true stories, and scriptural truth, readers learn how to apply the "6 Steps to SANITY" S-STOP your own negative behavior A-ASSEMBLE a support group N-NIP excuses in the bud I-IMPLEMENT rules and boundaries T-TRUST your instincts Y-YIELD everything to God Resources are available at the ministry website: www.settingboundaries.com

Setting Boundaries With Difficult People

Author: Allison Bottke
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 0736941347
Size: 16.50 MB
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Setting Boundaries With Difficult People from the Author: Allison Bottke. Continuing her popular Setting Boundaries® series, Allison Bottke offer her distinctive “Six Steps to SANITY” to readers who must deal with difficult people. S...Stop your own negative behavior A...Assemble a support group N...Nip excuses in the bud I...Implement rules and boundaries T....Trust your instincts Y...Yield everything to God Whether it’s a spouse, in-law, boss, coworker, family member, neighbor, or friend, readers who have allowed others to overstep their boundaries will learn how these six steps can help them reset those boundaries and take back their life...for good. Setting Boundaries® with Difficult People is designed to inspire, empower, and equip readers with the tools to transform lives.

Don T Bite Your Tongue

Author: Ruth Nemzoff
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
ISBN: 9780230614109
Size: 25.70 MB
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Don T Bite Your Tongue from the Author: Ruth Nemzoff. Parents make enormous sacrifices helping children become healthy and autonomous adults. And when children are older, popular wisdom advises parents to let go, disconnect, and bite their tongues. But increasing life spans mean that parents and children can spend as many as five or six decades as adults together: actively parenting adult children is a reality for many families. Dr. Ruth Nemzoff--a leading expert in family dynamics--empowers parents to create close relationships with their adult children, while respecting their independence. Based on personal stories as well as advice that she has accrued from years of coaching, this lively and readable book shows parents how to: -communicate at long distances -discuss financial issues without using money as a form of control -speak up when disapproving of an adult child's partner or childrearing practices -handle adult children's career choices or other midlife changes -navigate an adult child's interreligious, interracial or same sex relationships No other book treats the challenges of parent and adult offspring relationships as part and parcel of a healthy family dynamic. This practical lessons of Don't Bite Your Tongue will help parents play a vital and positive role in their children's lives.

Setting Boundaries For Women

Author: Allison Bottke
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 0736948201
Size: 46.10 MB
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Setting Boundaries For Women from the Author: Allison Bottke. Women who have trouble setting and enforcing appropriate boundaries with the people in their lives will find help and inspiration in the latest offering in Allison Bottke's popular Setting Boundaries(r) series. Her six steps to SANITY are: S...Stop your own negative behavior A...Assemble a support group N...Nip excuses in the bud I...Implement rules and boundaries T....Trust your instincts Y...Yield everything to God Allison's new book will help women who have allowed others to overstep their boundaries, whether it's a spouse, an adult child, a boss, a parent, a neighbor or a friend. Setting Boundaries(r) For Women is designed to inspire, empower, and equip women with the tools to transform lives.

When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart

Author: Joel Young
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 1493003968
Size: 10.67 MB
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When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart from the Author: Joel Young. Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?" These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to "saving" their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.